House Sitting in Upstate NY

Crystal Uncategorized

Whenever anyone asks me where I’m from (after I give them a look of frustrated confusion because I can’t figure out how much of the story to tell), I generally say, “I’m originally from New York-not-the city.” I generally follow up with, “I grew up between the Amish and the Seneca Nation,” a beautiful, rural area in the northern foothills …

I’m somewhere I never thought I’d be

Crystal Uncategorized

I turn 30 this year. I am married, with a kid and two dogs, and I’m living with my parents. Surprise! The problem we ran into in Puerto Viejo since I lost my job was that with Jonathan picking up work, I became the full time care taker and didn’t have time to really look for and dig into more lucrative work. …

Mindset

Crystal Uncategorized

I use to feel like a fraud when I would “trick” myself into being productive. In the worst of my depressive spells, I wasn’t able to do much other than lay in bed and make sure I took the dogs out for walks. But between very-depressed and not-depressed, there’s this miasma of grey and a whole lot of “don’t wanna.” And …

The line between reason and excuse is very gray

Crystal Uncategorized

There’s a lot of things I had planned to do the last couple days. Respond to comments. Get some applications and work done. Clean. Take six month photos of Little Man. None of that happened. I did, however, manage to take the child for his vaccinations, find the new Chinese food place outside of town (and eat Chinese food)… and …

Finding my way

Crystal Uncategorized

A former boss of mine has been an absolute champ, connecting me with recruiters and letting me know about job opportunities. So I had a meeting with a recruiter who is looking for possibilities for me, and while he may turn up nothing, it’s nice to have someone helping. Even if they’re getting paid for it. In the meantime, I’ve …

It’s hard to not get overwhelmed

Crystal Uncategorized

I’m in the midst of job searching right now, which has been a lot of, “Thanks, but no,” and utter silence. Not unusual for any job search, but it is getting wearing. I’m picking up odd jobs here and there from all the things I’ve done as hobbies and side jobs (web design, cover design, fiction editing, book formatting, etc) …

The one thing you should never say to an expat…

Crystal Uncategorized

Those of us who have chosen to expatriate, who’ve picked up and left our homes because we wanted or our jobs lead us there, have often heard this phrase: “You’re so lucky.” And I’ll admit, I am. But rarely for the reasons the person uttering those words thinks. I’m lucky I was born in a time when travel is fast …

The location of my feet is not my home

Crystal Uncategorized

San Jose doesn’t feel like home, but it is finally starting to feel home-like. The cashier at AM/PM starts cracking up when she sees me in line, empty handed, knowing that I will simply grab an almond Snickers and then be on my way. The woman at the café knows I take my coffee sin azucar. The waiter at Machu …

Connect, Cut, Burn: 3 Essential Travel Tools

Jonathan Uncategorized

I’m a boy scout who never joined the scouts — I believe in the motto “always be prepared”, though the scouts and I may have differed on a few points. (My version of a one match fire involves a roll of toilet paper and a bucket of gasoline.) In the US, this translated into prepping for the zombie apocalypse (I …